How Async Coaching Leads to Deeper Relationships, Not Distance

Travis Bogard
Jul 24
2 min read

The Myth: Async Creates Distance

At first glance, it’s a fair assumption: if you’re not meeting live, how can you form strong relationships?

We’ve heard this question from new users and curious coaches alike. The fear is that asynchronous voice coaching—without real-time interaction—might feel cold or impersonal.

But the reality is the opposite.

Again and again, coaches tell us:

Async voice makes their relationships stronger.

Here’s why.

1. In-the-Moment Sharing Brings Out the Real Stuff

When clients speak the moment something happens—without waiting for a session—they speak more honestly.

There’s no time to soften their words, edit their emotions, or reframe the moment.

“Because clients can share at any moment, you hear them unfiltered—before memory reshapes what really happened.”

You get their raw reaction. And with it, a deeper understanding of how they think, feel, and process.

This kind of immediacy is hard to recreate in scheduled sessions.

2. Voice Unfolds More Than Live Conversations Allow

Ari Meisel put it perfectly: “No one goes on a 12-minute diatribe in a meeting.”

But in an async voice message? They do. And those long-form, stream-of-consciousness voice notes often contain the deepest insights.

Clients speak freely. No timer. No interruptions. No need to “perform.”

They just talk. And that’s often where the real breakthroughs happen.

3. Connection Happens at the Right Time, Not the Scheduled Time

Relationship-building doesn’t just happen during scheduled sessions. It happens when someone shows up at the right moment.

Async allows you to respond when it matters most—whether it’s right after a tough conversation, a flash of insight, or a personal win.

That responsiveness builds a stronger bond. It tells your client: I’m here with you. Even if we’re not live, we’re still connected.

So while async might seem like a barrier to connection, in practice, it often removes the friction—and creates space for more honest, meaningful conversations.